How to be more resilient?
The choices we make every day determine how resilient we can be when things go wrong.
Resilience is the capacity to cope with stress and adversity. It comes from believing in yourself and, at the same time, in something bigger than yourself.
The choices we make every day determine how resilient we can be when things go wrong. Discover the secret to thriving in challenging times.
It’s human nature to resist change, but change is inevitable, and developing the trait of resilience helps us not only survive change, but also learn, grow, and thrive in it.
Resilience is not a trait that people are born with; it involves behaviors, thoughts, and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone. In this blog I will give you practical tips on how to be more resilient.
I want you to focus on how to be more resilient and to make use of the tools I have been using to strengthen my own resilience. Show up for your life with grace and faith no matter what! Become strong, healthy, or successful again after something bad happens!
– Master your emotions before they manage you.
Remind yourself that much of what you’re facing is temporary, and that you’ve overcome setbacks before and can do it again.
Resilience isn’t about pushing past our feeling or ignoring them. To be truly resilient, we must be able to feel our feelings. Move through them and feel more balanced. A way to balance your feeling is to make use of HeartMath Breathing. Cleaning up your energy and it will help you becoming more resilient. You may not be aware of some emotions you experience, but they still affect your body and resilience. You experience a wide range of emotions every day and they all affect you in a different way. Understanding your attitudes, emotions and stress reactions will result in a direct understanding of your resilience.
You may wonder, what does energy management have to with resilience? Resilience can be thought of as a capacity to prepare for, recover from and adapt to stress, challenge and adversity. It is common that when your energy is low, it can be difficult to think clearly, perform tasks well etc, all of this are good indications that your resilience is low. The greater your resilience, the more energy you will have available when you need it! Having more energy means you have greater capacity to self-regulate and be in charge or how you respond in situations.
Below I give you a HeartMath breathing exercise, please do not hesitate to try it out! The quick coherence technique is consciously self-activating a regenerative feeling. It’s renewing or positive feelings that create coherence.
Focus your attention in the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual. Inhale 5 seconds, exhale 5 seconds. This will help you center and getting coherent.
Make a sincere attempt to experience a regenerative feeling such as appreciation or care for someone or something in your love. Re-experience the feeling you have for someone you love, a pet, an accomplishment etc.
– Keep growing.
Life does not get easier or more forgiving; we get stronger and more resilient. Keep planning for the future even when things aren’t working out the way you wanted it. Focus on the possibilities and adapt to your present life.
– Pick yourself up, as many times as it takes.
Resilient people understand that failure is not falling down but refusing to get up. They have the capacity to adapt successfully and the willpower to never give up. Stop telling yourself that you are the victim. Stop dis-empowering yourself, change your story, become your own warrior. You are trying to get better every day, witness your problem and change it.
Exercise how to change your story and your own health:
1. Write your story below (how you feel, what you are doing)
2. Write your vision statement
E.g. I want to achieve my health goals (eating better, working out, communicating better), because it will increase my self-confidence and my overall energy and happiness
3. Take 3 big breaths and Ask yourself what needs to change?
4. Determine on one objective and 2 action steps you are willing to take
E.g. I want to eat healthy (lean proteins, whole grains, vegetables and fruits) 5 days per week
1. On Sunday’s I will make my weekly menu and order my groceries/ food
2. I will make my own brekkie 5 days a week
– Reward the small wins.
Resilient people believe in themselves. They work hard and take joy in the small wins that give them strength. Praise yourself, small steps are also steps forward!
– Don’t talk about the problem, talk about the solution
What you focus on will become reality. Many of us facing a problem tend to talk about it a lot, giving it more momentum. If you think and talk about the problem 24 hours a day you will lower your energetic vibration. Resulting in experiences more low vibrations. So, start focusing on the solution and shift your momentum. The solutions might come in the form of doctors or therapist, but it can also be new perspectives. The possibilities are limitless.
The bottom line is this: If you need to vent, vent. But don’t vent all day. Move on and give momentum to the new story.
You can still have a good day even though you are healing. String together your moments of joy, when you feel good, allow yourself to feel good. Life is never 100% good or bad. Experience glimmers of hope, gratitude and happiness even when you are going through a really hard time. You are healing, you are recovering and you can still have a good day.
If you want to learn more about being resilient please do not hesitate to contact me and make an appointment!